A Call to Write

I’ve noticed since the inauguration of President Obama an uptick in the
rhetoric and not so veiled threats to the president and our country.
Fueled by talking heads like like Sean Hannity, Alan Keys and Rush
Limbaugh, as they argued that President Obama must be stopped at any
cost, it has progressed into the formation of a political party (the
Tea Party), who’s sole purpose seems to be to “take our country back”,
which sounds more like rallying cry for a coup than a tag line for a
political movement. Many in this movement are quick to associate any
humility or deference to the needs of the world at large, as treasonous
or at a minimum unpatriotic. Those who have lit this fuse appear willing
to say anything, to keep their ratings up and their pockets lined on
the pretext of preserving the American way.

First, let me say
that I do not wish to exists at any cost. If I must cast off all that I
am, and myself become an abomination to myself and others, I would
rather that I not have been born at all. And likewise for this country,
if we yield to the vulgar nature of fear and loathing to continue our
existence then we have already forsaken all those things we claim to
be, and we make a mockery of the creed “One Nation Under God”.

Secondly, it seems equally clear to me that “we” must push against the
current of hate and rage, with all the vigor of our beings, that all
that we have worked for may not perish from the face of the earth. Yes,
this country is at great risk right now, but not from anything President
Obama has done, but rather from the lips of those who oppose
freedom when the candidate of their choice is not elected. Where were
these voices the previous eight years? With very few exceptions, those
clamoring the loudest to that we are on the wrong track, are the very
same ones who sold and embarrassed themselves for the previous
administration. Where was their outrage then?

Thirdly, we must
confess that we are a country of morally dishonest people when it comes
to politics. We take up truths that line up with our predetermined
position or affiliation. Many know the truth but they are too afraid to
say it. The truth is, that President George H Bush (the father) was a
good president. He corrected the fiscal policies for President Reagan,
that led to the last major recession. President Reagan was a great
leader, but his policies were very flawed. President Clinton benefited
from President Bush’s fiscal policy, but had the good sense to build
upon them. And as the years pass and the media spin wears off,
President Carter will look better and better. While not right on
everything, he was right on so much, that we as a nation were just not
ready to hear (he called for energy independence before it was a cool
thing to do).

So, the question in my mind is just how do we
change the conversation? How do we affect change, such that we speak
and act upon real issues and not rhetoric and blind ideology born out
of fear of those different from ourselves?

We write.

We write upon this gigantic blackboard called the Internet. We write to
newspapers large and small. We write to the radio stations that
broadcast programs that prey upon our fears and promote incivility. We
write to our legislators and congress persons. We write articles,
opinion pieces and letters to national and local magazines. We write
anywhere where we have the right to express ourselves and our shared
belief of a better existence here in this life. We write the truth, no
matter how painful it may be, whether it benefits us personally or not,
and whether it offends or not. We must have faith in the truth, and
that by its inherent power; we will be delivered from this current
climate of bitterness and deceit.

Lastly, let us remember that
nothing is impossible for those who have faith in what is good and
just. Whether we see the harvest in our generation, does not matter in
comparison to the preservation of the process, built upon the belief
that all men are created equal, and that we might pass this hope along
to future generations, granting them the faith to continue on…

Sincerely,
Alan Jones

Thoughts on writing and other means of sharing

Surely it is questionable how one can constantly and persistently open one’s veins allowing one’s life to splatter across the page, especially when each encounter leaves the writer drained and a little dimmer.

What is this compulsion to examine one’s own soul, the drive to share lessons learned from each encounter, real or imagined? Why this thirst for something better, even when seemingly, there is no satisfaction within reach in this life?

…Except for this hope, glimpsed in the corner of the eye like a wayward lightning bug appearing in the darkest halls of our lives; leading us further into the darkness. Is each uncertain step further into the vapors faith, foolishness, or both? But then again, if we could understand it all, if we could see it all, would it be faith at all? And maybe, just maybe, in our brighter moments, might we be lighthouses for one another in this journey we all share? For when we shine in the darkness, it has no answer and the substance of our hope is revealed.

Broken

I’m of the belief that, eventually, we all get broken. I can’t tell you when, but it will happen. For me, it was during my college years. I struggled from the start, but then after my mother got sick (cancer), things got worse. Some place between the strain of trying to stay in school at Georgia Tech and caring for my dying mother and working, something snapped, something overflowed, something fell to the ground.

In all honesty, I was shattered by the whole experience. And while that was the lowest point of my life, I can say with equal conviction, that I know that God put me back together again, stronger than before, and I believe, more useful.

One might say that it is in this breaking process that we learn how to love. And as a friend reminded me, often times people, even in the church, are slow to listen to those in need, due to their own unwillingness to accept their own brokenness. To open their hearts to the suffering of those in need, would be to hold a mirror up to their own pain.

And certainly, I understand the perceived need to keep it moving, to smile to stop one’s self from crying. I get all of that, I truly do. But then I ask you, what better purpose of our own suffering, if not to better serve others?

The longer I live and the more I see, the more I am convinced that this experience we call “life” is about restoration. Yet it seems that restoration must always be preceded by upheaval and brokenness. And so it seems to be the same regarding the birth of any good thing.

Echos

I am an echo. The evidence of lives gone on, I am what remains of their joy, their pain, their tears.

I am an echo. A reverberation of all the love spoken into me.

I am an echo. The source of nothing, except a willingness to serve as a conduit.

We are an echo, resounding through the darkness, lest any of us think we are our own creation.

Those Who Get It

Have you ever noticed how some people just seem to get it? Be it on the job or in their personal lives, they just seem to have it all figured out.

Being an observer of people, I have found that people fall into one of four categories in their professional and personal lives (of course, there are people whose success and personal behavior defy description).

As professionals you have:
1) Those who get it,
2) Those that don’t
3) Those that don’t want to hear it
4) Those who won’t.

1) the 1’s get it. They understand what it takes to be successfully and are willing to do it. They understand the sacrifice and appreciate those around them who understand too.

2) The 2’s, those that don’t get it, bounce from job to job and are either asked to leave or leave on their own because they aren’t being promoted fast enough. They have bought the hype, and always assume that they’ll be a top 5% earner in their chosen profession. They don’t really understand sacrifice or the level of effort it really takes to successful.

3) The 3’s, those who don’t want to hear it, understand in their heart what it takes to be successful, but are in denial about it. They understand cost to be a 1, but many of them are often seduced by short cuts and get rich quick schemes. The collective energy they’ve put into pursuing these pots of gold, could build the dreams they pursue if they just had the focus. They burn through most of their 20’s in this state, but they eventually figure it out, and at such an age do develop an appreciation for the 1’s who have already. This group contains many who might be called “Twixters”. In today’s dating generation, this is the largest of the 3 groups. They may be just as smart as 1’s, they just don’t “get it”, until they’ve run in circles for a while.

4) The 4’s, won’t play by the rules. If they don’t have an illegal hustle, it’s because they really don’t think the risk is worth the reward. 4’s aren’t stupid, they count the cost, and realize, in their own minds, that they just really don’t want to work that hard. They have sense enough not to chase their own tail, but watch yours around them, for if they can come up quick and get away with, they will.

In relationships you also have:
A) Those who get it,
B) Those that don’t
C) Those that don’t want to hear it
D) Those who won’t.

A) Those that get it: These are the people who, since the age of 16 have never had an issue getting or holding on to a mate. And if they should somehow find themselves single again, there’s a line of folks ready to get with them. It has little to do with looks or money, although neither hurts. But these folks know how to take care of a mate and how to show love. There is a light inside of them, that other folks who get it, see as well. Those who “get it” in their personal lives tend to pare off. But folks who get tend to recognize quickly when things are not going to work out. Those who get it make great same sex friends, in that they are the last of the four types to ever try to poach your mate, for they understand, and honor love above sex and money. Professionally, these people are often 1’s. Even if they aren’t high earners or near the top of their field they understand what it takes and sincerely appreciate it in other. A’s have a gift for being real, but they are equally as gifted in seeing the qualities that they want in others. They know emotional talent when they see it.

B) Those that don’t get it: In relationships B’s are befuddled as to why all their relationships end poorly. They may be 1’s professionally, but run off every potential mate, by lack of attentiveness, or if a 2 or 3 professionally, they may lean towards making themselves too available. B’s, and particularly women, want the fairly tale relationship they dreamed about growing up. B’s, who are largely women, are generally more honest than C’s or D’s, but they can become desperate, and that might not be a good look around your man. B’s and C’s both project, but B’s tend to really over inflate a relationship, but on the other hand they are some of the sweetest people in the world, they just don’t get this thing we call reality.

C) Those that don’t want to hear it: They say they’re looking for a 50/50 love, but what they really mean,is that any relationship needs to start at least 50/50 and lean their way from there. They refuse to accept that they might have to give more than they get. They are in denial about how real relationships work, and if they are giving more than 50%, they are ashame of it. The A’s understand, that as long as you get what you need, what does it matter? The B’s don’t really understand the concept of working on a realtionship. There are just as many men in this group as there are women. And professionally, these folks tend to be 2’s and 3’s. But like in their professional lives, they are often either looking an available upgrade or weighing thepossibility of taking a short cut to what they want. They know where the line is, and don’t typically cross it, but if you are having issues with your S/O, they might begin to rationalize investigating futher. So, you want to watch your mate around them, in those cases. C’s aren’t likely as B’s to go Fatal Attraction on you, reality does typically win the day with them. But unlike A’s, C’s often have to figure it out the hard way. As they mature, C’s can grow into A’s, but they must always be on guard not to back slide to their old trifling ways. B’s and C’s both often suffer from poor mate selection. Women of both groups tend to project onto a man how they would like him to be, rather than who he is, C’s just happen to eventually figure out what the deal is.

D) Those who won’t: These are the people who don’t play by the rules and it bugs the heck out of A’s, B’s and C’s. Each has his or her own rules. They ain’t gotta take your man, and often times don’t want to. They just want what they want. And men of this ilk, often actually prefer married women, so they don’t have to commit. Both D men and women, will say whatever their potential lover needs to hear. They really believe all’s fair in love and war. The ironic thing is that D’s are just as adept at spotting talent as A’s. They are very efficient with their time, and don’t waste it with those who can’t or won’t provide their needs. D’s are almost always 1’s or 4’s professionally. But if they happen to be a 4, when and if they decide to settle down they often find someone to take care of them financially. Social norms just seem to be a big waste of time to them. Although, all D’s are certainly not sociopaths, certainly all sociopaths are D’s.

Some parings within an individual are more likely than others, such as some being a 1A or 1D, with 1B’s being less likely.

So, who are you? Or better yet, who is the one you’re with?

Disclaimer: Again, I say that not every person falls in one of these catagories, but just as in other parts of life, you can only prepare so much for random events, or people for that matter.

Listen…

Listen…

I’ve spoken too much without listening. A product and prisoner of western thought, I’ve focused too much on changing things, rather than being changed.

Even if I know the utter truth, it matters not, given that I am not pure and taint every word that proceeds from my lips. The love I want to share is held captive to my own imperfections.

And if by some divine intercession, I find an unfiltered moment of light, what then?

How do I survive this world so, in such a state of being?

How do I hold on, and yet let go, that I might become?

I Listen.

 

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